• Resources shared at the 2019 REFRESH conference! DTD and RAD Guide for TeachersDownload How parents get PTSDDownload Self-care guideDownload What to do when CPS knocks on the doorDownload Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Like this:Like Loading...
  • 5 lessons I wish I’d known when I first adopted a child with developmental trauma My husband and I adopted Devon out of foster care when he was 3. Devon has complex developmental trauma disorder (DTD, commonly diagnosed as reactive attachment disorder). This often occurs when a child experiences chronic abuse or neglect early on and results in disrupted brain development. Adoptive parents like myself aren’t given a how-to manual for raising ...
  • The loss of 11-year-old Caleb: What we might learn from another tragic story of mental health help given too late, too little Caleb, 11, was thin with blond hair, glasses, and a big smile where crooked teeth jockeyed for space. He and his brother, Elijah, were adopted by Martin and Dena Lishing when Elijah was a toddler and Caleb was a baby. Their young birth mother struggled from addiction. Born a preemie at 24-weeks-old and weighing only 1 ...
  • Top 10 posts for 2018 In case you missed it…these are my top 10 posts for 2018: How to discipline a child with RAD What to do when CPS comes knocking at your door Before you Adopt What it’s like being the sibling of a child with RAD When a mom struggles to love her child 15 practical self-care ideas How to increase your resilience Open Letter to ...
  • The making of a murderer? Our Failed Solutions for Seriously Ill Foster Youths (published by The Chronicle of Social Change) Justin Taylor Bean, removed from his abusive birth parents as a toddler, spent the next two decades in psychiatric hospitals and more than 40 residential facilities. Over the years, his physical and verbal aggression increased despite treatment and medication. Then, at the ...
  • When pigs fly: the day my son’s therapist apologized… Today my son’s therapist apologized to me. (Go ahead, take a moment to pick yourself up off the floor, then keep reading…) If you’re the parent of a child diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder (RAD) you know just how significant this is.  As parents of children with developmental trauma, one of our biggest pain points is dealing ...
  • 5 things I learned at ATTACh 2018 Recently, I had the privilege of attending the ATTACh 2018 conference. I learned from keynote speakers including leading researcher and author of The Body Keeps The Score, Dr Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. and attended a variety of workshops and parent sessions. Here are 5 things I learned and want to pass along to you: Keep a ...
  • RAD, DTD – What’s all the controversy about? Tweets. Facebook messages. Verbal knockouts. One too many times, I’ve been told reactive attachment disorder (RAD)—the result of a child’s early trauma—isn’t a “real” diagnosis. When parents like me hear that our child’s diagnosis is fake, bogus, or phony, it’s like a kick in the stomach. We feel invalidated, misunderstood, hurt, angry, and frustrated. I’ve even ...
  • What to do when CPS comes knocking… An interview with Diane L. Redleaf, a family defense pioneer Nationally-known leaders have called Diane L. Redleaf the “conscience of the child welfare system,” the driving force behind creating a “better, fairer child welfare system” and “the people’s lawyer.” Diane has played a leading role in hundreds of important cases on behalf of families, with over 60 ...
  • Before you adopt… Two-year-old Kayla was shy with dimples that winked when she laughed. Her brother, three-year-old Devon, had curly brown hair, freckles and a quick smile. We’d long dreamed of adopting foster kids and my husband and I jumped in heart-first. During the mandatory three-month pre-adoption waiting period, Devon and Kayla had some concerning behaviors – issues with ...

 

 

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